Exit and Support Network

Setting Boundaries

  • This is what I will do. This is what I won't do.

  • I will not take this kind of behavior anymore.

  • I'm not responsible for his (her) happiness.

  • I refuse to be manipulated.

  • I'm sorry, I wish I could help you, but I can't.

  • Why did you say that to me? Do you know how I feel when you say things like that?

  • I don't want to talk about this.

  • I want to talk about this.

  • I'm not responsible for fixing the problem.

  • I'm not responsible for making others happy.

  • He/she needs to be responsible for themselves.

  • I can make my own decisions.

  • I will let others make their own decisions.

  • I feel angry...lonely...guilty...driven...afraid.

  • I can respond calmly.

  • I can say yes.

  • I can say no.

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