 I am willing to face the abuse and acknowledge the hurt and the pain.
I am able to express feelings and thoughts to others about the abuse.
I understand that I was a
victim1; that regardless of any consent I
may
have given, I was a victim.
I
consider the abuse a violation.
I
realize the damage experienced and I have overcome personal
feelings of
shame and guilt.
I identify personal style of relating to others, including attempts to
avert
further hurt by avoiding honesty and intimacy.
I am able to overcome unrealistic fears and am not plagued with
continued
anxiety.
I have experienced an increase in sense of worth as a person and am
able to
trust others.
I have the ability to have intimate relationships with spouse, family and
friends.
I am free from the burdens of perfectionism, of rage, or bitterness, and
of
depression.
Adapted from Beyond the Darkness, by Cynthia Kubetin and James
Mallory
1 Some
prefer the word "target" instead of "victim." Tim Field,
author of Bully in Sight has this to say: "The
word 'victim' allows disingenuous people to tap into and stimulate other
people's misconceptions and prejudices of victimhood. 'Target' correctly
identifies that it is the choice of the bully to bully, it is not the choice of
the target to be targeted."
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