I think many of us have questions about "why did God allow this to happen to me?" Spiritual deception and betrayal is not easy to make sense of. I felt I was making my own choices when I listened to the program and sent away for the literature. What I had no knowledge of was mind control, coercive persuasion and propaganda techniques (methods which all false prophets and teachers use to peddle their lies) and I was not aware that religious cults often use "church" as a front to deceive. I was young, naive, and living far away from home (which I am sure played a part). As a result, I succumbed to it all, believing it was "truth from God" that no one else was teaching.

I had no idea that I was allowing a man (Herbert Armstrong) to interpret the Scriptures for me. But he did indeed manipulate and twist my mind, causing me to trust only him and no one else. The more I surrendered myself to every last vestige of what he taught, believing I was in God's "one and only true Church" and that he (HWA & "God's government") was always to be obeyed and never questioned, the more I came into slavery to an organization more evil and dark than anyone could possibly imagine. "Truths" of God turned out to be doctrines of bondage,1 happiness turned into depression, success turned into failure, joy turned into grief, and as the years passed, it slowly began destroying my life and my family's life (while we only blamed ourselves). The full reason "why" it happened may never be known in this life.

I know now that the "god" that Herbert Armstrong taught was not the true God of love. Even if some of us felt we were Christians before we entered, we often find that after leaving, we lose our concept of God, and it can turn into a horrific struggle to try to understand what He is like and if He still there.2

Was there anything good that came out of the many years spent in such a group? I learned to have compassion for those who were downhearted, lonely and poor. I came to love certain people and wanted to encourage them (none of that will ever be a loss); I persevered. Finding out that we were all deceived by evil men who chose to lie and abuse us is devastating. But as I look back, I can see God's hand on me throughout my entire life (and, yes, even while I was in a cult). The true God of love never stopped loving me and He never stopped being there. In spite of all my mistakes and failures, He heard my prayers, He intervened, He sustained me--and at the right time He helped me leave before it was too late. I can say that I have come to understand and appreciate Grace more than I ever would have. I can identify with the needless suffering people go through by being in a destructive cult. I have become discerning about false religions and false teachings in the church. I am a stronger person in certain ways than before.

If we only allow ourselves to dwell on the "wasted years" or the "whys," we will become disheartened and fail to move forward. Some losses we can never regain--and these losses are many--but the true God will comfort us and draw us closer to Him. He is able to use any experience we have endured no matter how horrendous it was. He can take the evil and the pain and eventually work it into something good for us, and others, if we allow Him. He can bring us through the darkness. He will send others to encourage us. We may have spent years and years inside an abusive and controlling group, but to finally come to understand more about the Person of the Lord Jesus Christ--His redeeming love, His grace, His forgiveness, His ever abiding presence, and His gift of everlasting life--is more important than anything else in this life. The true God is a God of all comfort and He alone can truly comfort us in the way we need comforting. In spite of being betrayed in the deepest sense of the word, He can enable us to receive the grace and strength to go on. He will never leave us nor forsake us. And someday when we enter into His presence, He will wipe away all tears from our eyes and make everything new. How much our hearts will then rejoice!

This is the true God of Love (not the one taught by HWA) and He is there for us, in spite of our not being able to "feel" His love; in spite of not knowing who He is, or what He is like anymore. He's watching over us and yearning to heal us and draw us closer to Him. We can come to have a loving, personal relationship (fellowship) with Him.

By D. W.
Exit & Support Network™
2003
Last updated June 22, 2008
 

"For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord" ~ Romans 8:38-39.

Footnote by ESN:

1 See our Booklist for those which cover the bondages we were under.

2 These feelings are a result of the group leader being able to transfer the member's feelings for God to him and the government in the group. Leaving the group then results in the member feeling he has "lost God." This is a mind control technique.

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